People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person..
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support,to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.They may seem like a godsend and they are.They are there for the reason you need them to be.Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,
this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons,
things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.Your job is to accept the lesson,love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

Thank you for being a part of my life,

whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime.

Setting sun

Complain With Grace

Kind ways to speak your mind

by Jami Nishi

Nobody likes a complainer, yet a little griping does have its benefits. How many times have you gone out with friends only to spend your time together blowing off steam about work and relationships? Didn't you feel better afterward?

How many times have you heard someone begin a conversation with, "Could it be any hotter in here?" Sometimes people complain just to create a stir and make themselves look good: "They call this gazpacho? I call it tomato sauce!" More often than not, people complain because they just want a little sympathy. These gripes are all pretty harmless. Some of them can even lead to interesting and uplifting interactions.

The danger comes when complaining puts a strain on relationships or blocks personal, emotional or spiritual growth. Complaining is a common way of avoiding responsibility and can provide an excuse for inaction. Moreover, complaining too much or too harshly can reinforce negative thinking, drive friends away - and adversely affect your health.

It would be downright repressed to never let a grumble leave your lips, but most of us could stand to complain just a little less. When you feel the need to complain there are techniques to help you do it with grace and restraint. Try these suggestions for getting a grip on your gripe.

Not worth it!
The dog smells. The dishes are piling up. The computer keeps crashing. The fridge is making a funny sound. Complaining takes time and energy. Don't let the small stuff suck the life out of you (and your partner). Start making a list of petty complaints as they arise. Once you become aware of them, it will be that much easier to go about changing your behavior. Remember, if it's not going to matter much in a month, it's probably not worth your time today.

Think big
When it comes to really important issues (life, death, love, money, health), it's unhealthy to bottle things up. If you have a gripe that needs to get out into the world, pick the person most likely to give you the sympathy you need, or the person with the most to offer on the topic, and try to keep the venting to a limit (five minutes, tops). Choose wisely, and you might come away with some great advice.

Be positive
While kvetching with a friend can be fun, it may not be the healthiest way to bond. Instead of reinforcing one another's negative patterns, try focusing on the more positive things you share, whether it's a favorite performer on "So You Think You Can Dance" or a love of Thai food.

Think before you act
When something happens that gets your blood boiling or stirs up difficult emotions, think before you react too strongly. Venting right away could lead to misunderstandings, since you yourself might not fully understand where all those feelings are coming from. Take time to reflect before sending that reply to your coworker's frustrating email. Once you've cooled down and given it some thought, talk to someone you trust - see what they have to say.

Seek out solutions
When a problem arises, it's easy to be blindsided. To avoid this trap, resist the urge to focus solely on the problem (i.e. by complaining). Instead, look at the facts and seek out solutions. The steak you were served at the restaurant might be a piece of leather, for instance - but it's a piece of leather you can send back to the kitchen. When you begin to think beyond the problem and toward a solution, everyone wins.

Freeing yourself from unimportant complaints and learning to handle the larger issues with grace is both liberating and empowering. Not only will you be able to create more positive experiences for yourself, but also for the many people in your life - and that's nothing to complain about.

His name was Fleming, and he was a poor Scottish farmer. One day, while trying to eke out a living for his family, he heard a cry for help coming from a nearby bog. He dropped his tools and ran to the bog. There, mired to his waist in black muck, was a terrified boy, screaming and struggling to free himself. Farmer Fleming saved the lad from what could have been a slow
and terrifying death.
The next day, a fancy carriage pulled up to the Scotsman's sparse surroundings. An elegantly dressed nobleman stepped out and introduced himself as the father of the boy Farmer Fleming had saved.
"I want to repay you," said the nobleman. "You saved my son's life."
"No, I can't accept payment for what I did," the Scottish farmer replied, waving off the offer. At that moment, the farmer's own son came to the door of the family hovel.
"Is that your son?" the nobleman asked. "Yes," the farmer replied proudly.
"I'll make you a deal. Let me take him and give him a good education.
If the lad is anything like his father, he'll grow to a man you can be proud of."
And that he did. In time, Farmer Fleming's son graduated from St. Mary's Hospital Medical School in London, and went on to become known throughout the world as the noted Sir Alexander Fleming, the discoverer of Penicillin.
Years afterward, the nobleman's son was stricken with pneumonia.
What saved him? Penicillin.
The name of the nobleman? Lord Randolph Churchill.
His son's name? Sir Winston Churchill.

Everybody, Somebody, Anybody, And Nobody

Sometimes people come into your life and you know right away that they were meant to be there, to serve some sort of purpose, teach you a lesson, or to help you figure out who you are or who you want to become.

You never know who these people may be - a roommate, a neighbor, a professor, a friend, a lover, or even a complete stranger - but when you lock eyes with them, you know at that very moment they will affect your life in some profound way.

Sometimes things happen to you that may seem horrible, painful, and unfair at first, but in reflection you find that without overcoming those obstacles you would have never realized your potential, strength, willpower, or heart.

Illness, injury, love, lost moments of true greatness, and sheer stupidity all occur to test the limits of your soul. Without these small tests, whatever they may be, life would be like a smoothly paved straight flat road to nowhere. It would be safe and comfortable, but dull and utterly pointless.

The people you meet who affect your life, and the success and downfalls you experience, help to create who you are and who you become. Even the bad experiences can be learned from. In fact, they are sometimes the most important ones.

If someone loves you, give love back to them in whatever way you can, not only because they love you, but because in a way, they are teaching you to love and how to open your heart and eyes to things.

If someone hurts you, betrays you, or breaks your heart, forgive them, for they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious to whom you open your heart.

Make every day count. Appreciate every moment and take from those moments everything that you possibly can for you may never be able to experience it again. Talk to people that you have never talked to before, and listen to what they have to say.

Let yourself fall in love, break free, and set your sights high. Hold your head up because you have every right to. Tell yourself you are a great individual and believe in yourself, for if you don't believe in yourself, it will be hard for others to believe in you.

You can make anything you wish of your life. Create your own life and then go out and live it with absolutely no regrets.

And if you love someone tell them, for you never know what tomorrow may have in store.

Learn a lesson in life each day that you live!
Today is the tomorrow you were worried about yesterday.
Think About it? Was it worth it?

sheeba

The greatest pain in life is not to die, but to be ignored.

..To lose the person you love so much to enougher who doesn't care at all.

..To have some-one you care about throw a party and not tell you about it.

..To have people think that you don't care about them.

The greatest pain in life is not to die, but to be forgotten.

..To never get a call from a good friend, just saying "hello my friend".

..When you show some-one your most innermost thoughts,and they just laugh in you face.

..For friends to always be too busy to console you when you need some-one to lift your spirits.

..When it seems like the only person who cares about you ,is you.

..Life is full of pain,but does it, will get any better ?

Will people ever care about each other,and make time for those in need ?

Each of us have a part to play in this great show we call life.

Each of us has a duty to mankind to tell our friends we love them.

If you do not care about your friends,you will not be punished.

You will be simply ignored..

Forgotten..

As you have done to others. mmm